It is currently March 2022 and everyone around me is either married, getting married, trying to dip their toes in Australia’s f*cked up property market and/or about to have a baby. But let us focus on the weddings here. There are a number of characteristics that make a memorable wedding, ranging from the type of venue to the type of music. However my favourite component is the food and this is where South Asian weddings do not disappoint. The buffet like options at these weddings mean that you always leave these weddings a few pounds heavier and a food baby.
Buffets are great at weddings, but with the rise in dating apps like Tinder, Bumble, Grindr, eHarmony (and lord knows what else). Dating is no longer what it used to be. Nowadays its all about presenting yourself in a manner similar to which you would when you post on Instagram. It’s all about the witty one-liners, the aesthetic photos, the job titles and the accomplishments.
Thanks to dating apps everything from the area you live in to your favourite past-time hobbies make you either favourable or disposable, reducing you to nothing more than just another face that you can swipe left or right on. The thing that most people fail the recognize is that this approach then seeps out of these dating apps and into your real-world encounters with these faces, giving a rise to what we call ‘buffet like dating.’ You would think that with the amount of options we are presented with through this small device that our generation would be immensely satisfied (if not pleased) with this approach to modern day dating.
However the sad reality is that it is the complete opposite.
The truth is while having options are fantastic, having too many options can result in the paradox of choice – which according to The Decision Lab ‘stipulates that while we might believe that being presented with multiple options actually makes it easier to choose one that we are happy with, and thus increases consumer satisfaction, having an abundance of options actually requires more effort to make a decision and can leave us feeling overwhelm.’
A modern day dilemma that has managed to change the trajectory of dating through the endless amounts of apps now made accessible to us within a matter of minutes.
So how do we stop overwhelming our already exhausted brains? What should be the main factor that we should focus on when it comes to finding the right partner is the cesspool of cat fishers and emotionally unavailable people?
Based off my experience and mine alone. I would say compatibility.
How you define compatibility is entirely up to each individual because the definition of compatibility looks different to everyone. But I can safely say that when you end up meeting the person that you are actually compatible with it will feel easy. It may not always be easy (because lets face it no relationship ever is), but you will be able to be the truest form of yourself without any judgement. And that is the key to navigating through this maze of potential partners. So before you go on your next date take some time to define what compatibility means to you and then start pregaming with your favourite drink before heading out the door.